I am a trained 12-step therapist and also a trained Grief-Trauma therapist and would like to start by pointing out that a 12-step treatment is a program that is often associated with alcohol and drug problems. What I want to clarify is that these are lifestyle programs. It is part of CBT thinking, where you yourself find the best path with the help of finding your own spirituality. A lot of people think you have to be religious and believe in God to get good help from this program, but that's not how I look at it. I really want to make it clear that you don't have to. I myself found my "higher power" in concrete things that I can take and look at and it has worked incredibly well for me. What works for you, you will discover for yourself. It's also not a quick fix, where you start and after 12 weeks you're done. Just as I mentioned earlier, it is a lifestyle program that you will live by for the rest of your life.
Living with an addiction is something that many people do and there you are not alone. The most common thing when we talk about addiction is alcohol or drugs, but we easily forget that addiction can be something so much more. Something that we may not always see as an addiction. It may be that we exercise too much, that our attitude towards food creates an addiction that then turns into an addiction, that we have an unhealthy attitude towards sex and love relationships, that we eat too much sugar and sweets that create an unhealthy lifestyle. In all these cases, we may need help to let go of what has been and find a healthy attitude towards our behavior. I myself am specialized in sex and love problems and something that I know I am quite alone in the northern part of Sweden. Many from the north have to go down to Stockholm, or further than that for good treatment and help. Here I now hope to be able to help people in our northern part of the country, with reduced travel costs.
In the work, I will give you concrete tasks to work with, which in turn will give you a clear picture of who you are and what you yourself can change to feel as good as possible. It's a hard job but I can almost promise you that if you are willing to do the work, you will feel so much better afterwards. One can liken this treatment method to a fishing net, fine-meshed and small checkered where most things come to the surface and where there are a lot of blockages, we can take a hypnotherapy session to help. You can read more about this on the tab about Hypnotherapy.
Our conversations can also mean that you come to me in the role of the codependent, ie the one who is on the sidelines, the one who is a relative in some way. When it comes to this around codependency, it is also associated that you must have lived in a relationship with an alcoholic or drug addict or grew up in a so-called dysfunctional family so this is something you have with from childhood. Me, on the other hand, usually claims that codependency is Sweden's most common public disease. What do I mean? Yes, there are many who live in some kind of codependency, because they are something that creeps up when we do not have a fully developed self-esteem. When we adapt so to our surroundings so we forget about ourselves. We are not self-directed, but become world-driven. This is also where couples therapy also comes in, as they may be that you and your partner need help from different directions. One with his codependency, the other with his addiction. On my conversations for couples, I think it's important that you both have time to express yourself and I'm very careful about that.
When you come to me and want help with a problem you have right now, cognitive coaching, can be an excellent variant. Here we talk about the current situation and where you want. Here I use the CBT method, which you may have heard of and it is based on the pieces Thought - Feeling - Action and how you can move forward.
Truths are plentiful, but in CBT you don't really claim to sit inside with it. One method can work for one person, and another for another, no method works for everyone. By analyzing "cause and effect", CBT helps to develop your own, individual way of facing difficulties, what works for you. Something I also use is motivational interviewing (MI) which helps you find solutions to move forward in your problems. CBT has proven itself well in a number of different anxiety states, phobias, panic and obsessive-compulsive disorder and mild depression. It also works well as we want to increase performance and goal focus, but have also shown good results in stress, sleep and eating disorders and alcohol problems. This is something we can work with both on an individual level and as a couple if you need support in your relationship.
Finally, when we come to you who are looking for a conversation because you have lost a loved one OR become unemployed OR separated or other things that make you carry some kind of grief or trauma, we together build up what is best therapy for you. Many people can understand that a grief around losing someone can be hard, but what I see is that there can be at least as many who need to work with different forms of trauma that has occurred in life, or that you have simply gone through a difficult separation where you do not really find your way out of grief. Here a conversation with me comes in handy and you will get a lot of practical things to work on.